Self Confidence is an asset to everyday life. So, why do so many of us lack confidence in ourselves and our abilities?What is Self-confidence?Self-confidence or Self-esteem is how we value (or see) ourselves – in either a positive or negative outlook. However, most of us depict our flaws and bring out the worst in us. We focus on only our flaws and anything negative about ourselves. We worry about what others might think of us. We blame ourselves for things that aren’t our fault or in our control. We lay out our weaknesses and fail to see our strengths.This post has been sat gathering dust for a little while as confidence is something I’ve struggled with for a while now. However, this is a subject that must be discussed. Self-confidence is not just about standing up in front of thousands of people and being able to talk assuredly, it relates to so much more than that. If an individual lacks confidence, it can heighten into self-consciousness – worry what they look like or how others will judge them. It may also affect their self-belief – what they can and can’t do and may prevent them from fulfilling tasks because they do not believe in themselves enough. It can be detrimental to your health as it becomes a powerful over-ruler!My ExperienceIt’s never changed. Every single teacher, growing up, told me I needed to be more confident in myself. Having confidence though doesn’t just happen overnight. I believe it’s something we have to learn for it to grow.I’m sharing my experience, hoping to help others know they’re not alone if you’re experiencing something similar; and to raise awareness.I lacked a lot of confidence growing up. In my capabilities and worth. Over the last few years, it spiralled downhill and heightened into anxiety. I began to avoid social situations out of fear what I’d look like or how others would think of me. I was harsh on myself because I’d compare the best things I knew about them against all my flaws. How was that a fair comparison? It wasn’t! I was only making myself smaller and smaller. For me, this level of anxiety led to an eating disorder.I was battling an unforgiving relationship.Learn to love yourselfWe need to learn to be more kind on ourselves. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others because this is only going to bring us down! No two people are the same, so why should we try to be someone we’re not for the sake of being accepted by others. Let’s focus more on the positive, and a lot less on the negatives.Start by viewing failures as learning experiences. Love every single flaw you believe you have. Once you start to learn to love yourself, you’ll begin to live a happier life.